3 Superheros and A Dancer

This was our first year doing traditional trick or treating with the kids.  I thought I would tire of chasing the kids as they trolled the neighbors for candy.  I was wrong.  It was awesome.  Poor Slappy had blisters all over his feet by the end of the night.  I am not surprised that he didn't complain until the evening's end.  Running outside with wild abandon... with friends... in costume... ringing doorbells... getting candy.  Its like a dream come true for the kid.

Lance couldn't very well let the kids have all the costume fun-

 

10 Things Every Woman Should Have

In Allure magazine this month, Oscar de la Renta made a list of 10 things every woman should have.  I usually just scan through the magazine for perfume samples-- but I stopped and read this article to see how I measure up.

1.  A Great Romance.  Check.

 

2.  Face-framing Earrings.  Done.  NOBODY does big earrings like I do.                                                                

3.  A Small Bag.  Ok, I take exception with this one.  Clearly, the women in Oscar de la Renta's life are not toting around three small children.  In my mind, the bigger the bag, the better.  Even with no need for diapers anymore, I am still responsible for snacks, toys, wipes, hand sanitizer, bug spray etc.  I'll run out and get a small bag on the same day I buy myself a small car.

4.  Black Lace.  I bought this great skirt from Target a few weeks ago.  Love it. 

5.  A confident walk. Um... that's weird.  I'll work on that one.

6.  A cause to support.  This is a great one.  Mine is education... and family issues.  Everyone should have something they are passionate about.

7.  Red carnations. "a deep, deep red".  Another weird one.  But carnations are cheap-- so maybe I will work on this one too.

8.  A significant scent. I don't have a signature scent.  As I mentioned before, I love "Falling in Love" by Philosophy, but I don't wear it everyday.  I have about 20 different perfumes and body sprays I rotate through-- depending on the occasion.  Maybe I should commit to one for a while.  (For the record, for years I never wore anything but "Flowering Herbs" from Bath and Body Works).

9.  Very tall shoes.  I own this one!  A few months ago, the missionaries in my ward asked me to stop wearing such tall heels because I made all the Elders look short.  But I married a man that is 6'4-- I am free to wear any size heel I want!  I love it!

10.  A competitive streak.  I have always been competitive-- but the streak has died down over the past 5 years or so.  It took me nearly 30 years to realize that I am not very good at anything!

Some Light Reading

I had a few weeks in between semesters at school.  I decided to indulge in my favorite past time-- reading mindless drivel!  10 years ago, I was a history major at BYU and had to read so many heavy, tedious texts that it became a treat to read some Nicholas Sparks and Danielle Steel (gag) in between semesters.  Sadly, this became a habit.

So, with my precious two weeks of freedom from insipid education textbooks, I indulged in the following:

Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me by Mindy Kaling


I stumbled across this book at Target and laughed so hard at the Introduction that I had to buy it.  It did not disappoint.  Mindy is hilarious and easy to relate to.  She really hits her high in the first 4-5 chapters of the book.  After that, it gets a bit slow.  But those first chapters are so funny that its still one of my favorite new books.  (Beware, there is some language)

The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein
 

This book isn't as mindless as I generally prefer.  A friend told me that the book was written from the point of view of the family dog and I knew I just had to read it.   It is good-- not great.  Its a bit sad and heavy at times-- but overall a well-written story.

Now You See Her by James Patterson


This is James Patterson at his absolute best!  I have read just about every James Patterson book ever written (except for his young adult books) and I still did not know how this was going to end.  LOVED it!  (Again-- some language)

Crossed by Ally Condie


I had forgotten that I had read the first book in this series, "Matched".  The sequel is pretty good.  To be honest, it is not that different from all of the other post-apocalypse utopian young adult novels (Hunger Games, Pretties, The Giver, etc).  Intriguing, easy read.

Picture Perfect by Jodi Picoult

Picoult is a good writer-- but kind of bugs me sometimes.  This is an interesting story-- but not an amazing book.  Her other books are better.

Now I'm back in school.  And instead of these delightfully shallow reads, you can find me scouring the pages of this:

Product Endorsement

Before I turned 30, I never worried about beauty products.  Don't misunderstand me, I indulged in makeup and hair treatments plenty-- but I never really paid too much attention to brands and regiments.  The older I get, the more effort and maintenance is required to look (at least semi) attractive.  I don't like it.  I've always considered myself to be low-maintenance.  But I have found a few products that I really love.

Glow, by Hard Candy.

I read a magazine article written by Jennifer Lopez's makeup artist in Allure.  He claims that Jennifer is quite pale and does not have a natural glow about her-- that it is all in the right makeup.  I think J. Lo is so beautiful.  I was encouraged to read that her luminous beauty is, in large part, a result of the right makeup regimen.

I am fortunate to have lived in places that allow me to swim and soak up the sun regularly for 7-8 months out of the year.  I love being tan and haven't had to "fake bake" in a very long time.  But I have found my solution for the winter months.  Glow is a bronzer that enhances a tan and produces a "natural glow".  I love it.  I bought a large bottle at Walmart (classy, I know) months ago and it is still going strong.

Essie Nail Polish

My sister introduced me to Essie.  I love it.  I rarely paint my fingernails because the polish chips too easily.  The only polish I will use on my fingers is Essie.  The colors are so subtle and gorgeous.  I recently bought the color "Master Plan" (see picture above).  Lance calls my nails, "Primer nails"-- but I get a ton of compliments when I wear it.

Philosophy, Falling in Love

I first discovered this scent while shopping in Fresno in 2007.  I have been obsessed with it for five years now.  I don't buy it very often (I am prone to cheap perfume knock-offs and haven't found one for Falling in Love yet).  Lance bought me a bottle of Falling in Love, Summer for our anniversary a few months ago.  Love it.

What I need are some recommendations for 1. skin care (I have never put much effort into my skin at all.  But now that I am over 30, I figure I better start doing something) and 2. mascara  I feel as though I have tried every conceivable mascara out there.  I have made a hobby of it.  But I am still looking for one mascara product that "wows" me.   So... speak up and tell me what your products are!

Slappy's 3

Chase didn't seem to have much concept of birthday celebrations.  I spent all last week telling him about cake and presents and singing "Happy Birthday".  It must have worked because I woke up yesterday with Chase by my bed saying "Its my happy birthday! Cake!  Presents!"  (Ahhhh... another birthday diva is created!)

We were low-key with this one (read: lazy).  Family party after church.  Boring store-bought cake.  I usually spring for one of the decorated, custom-made cakes at the bakery.  I had this one in mind:  

This is what we ended up with.  Lazy, but Chase loved it.

 The kid cleaned up with superhero toys.  He's in heaven.

Am I sad that my youngest is already 3?  Nope.  I am ecstatic.  I love this kid-- its fun to see him growing up.

I took this video for Lance's parents.  It was too big to send via email, so I am posting it here.  Its probably boring for the rest of you.

For the Last Time

I am potty training this week. For the last time.  This has become my mantra- "This is the last time I will ever have to do this."  Repeated over and over again-- in my head and out loud.  (Well, that and "potty training is for sucks".  I say that a lot too.)

Actually, Chase hasn't been that bad.  For starters, he and I are alone from 7:30 until 4:15 every day.  He gets way more personal attention than Zoie and Tobin ever did at this age.  Also, Slappy will be 3 this Sunday.  His "advanced" age have made this (relatively) painless.  And I am really not nearly as busy as I would have been if I were still living in Florida (read: not much social life).  I'm kind of enjoying that part.

Slappy has always been a challenging kid-- mostly due to his stubborn, loud personality.  But with all of this "alone" time that he and I have every day, I'm developing quite a soft spot for the kid.  I don't even mind (much) asking him in a happy, excited voice 10X an hour, "Want to go potty?" 

For the last time.  Ever.

On Being a Mom... Views From a Cynic

This post contains no parenting advice. I could never pretend to have cracked the parenting code. I am not sure that I will ever be qualified to advise anyone on the great challenge of parenting.

Rather, this post is aimed at moms in social settings.  Most moms have some sort of "mom support"-- a play group, some random people at the local park, even an online forum.  I have had plenty of experience with these social situations, so here is a word to the wise:  If you find yourself ostracized from play dates and park get-togethers, perhaps you have broken one of these cardinal rules...

1.  Be honest about your kids.  Brag about your kids and complain about your kids.  But do both.  This rule has no exceptions. 
Don't be the cranky mom who is constantly whining about the horrors of motherhood.  You make us laugh and we can all sympathize, but then you are a drag and we start to feel sorry for your husband and kids. 
And please, please don't be the Mom who is shamelessly bragging non-stop about how her 6 month-old knows the alphabet and balances the budget.  We are impressed with the occasional achievement-- we roll our eyes and stop believing you with constant bragging.  If you really can't find anything to say that is not glowing and positive, then at least humor the rest of us with a generic comment like:
"It definitely takes patience to be a Mom", or "My kid sure does wear me out sometimes". 
You get the idea. Be real.  Being a mom is amazing... and exhausting.  Find a balance.

2.  Don't ever refer to yourself as a "Mommy".  Unless you are using a direct quote from your child, the word "Mommy" really should never pass your lips.  Its not cute.  Its akin to baby talk (which is also not cute).  You are not a stay-at-home "mommy".  You are a stay-at-home mom.  You do not love being a "mommy".  You love being a mom.  Please get it right.  The next time you get an urge to refer to yourself (while speaking to another adult) as a "mommy"-- stop it.

3.  Your kid is not acting out in class because he/ she is so advanced that they are bored. If I had a dollar for every parent who told me this, I'd be rich.  It is possible to be smart and also well-behaved.  If your kid is acting up in class-- it is not up to the teacher to challenge them more (that is a separate issue).  It is up to your kid to learn how to behave.
 

I realize how cynical this sounds.  Just a heads-up for new moms finding their footing in social situations.  You are welcome.